A wise person once told me that people come in our life for a reason; to teach or to learn, to give or to receive.
This statement has had a profound impact on my life ever since and has put a lot of things in perspective. At that time, I was at the phase in my life where I was negative about most things and had the most debilitating thoughts: people cannot be trusted; everyone has vested interests; why is this person treating me like this? It’s useless to try and mend the relationship…My disempowering beliefs seemed counterproductive to the way I was living, and I always felt drained and defeated, as though I was fighting multiple battles that I could never win.
However, even in those darkest of moments, my inner voice – the angel who rested on my shoulder would occasionally succeed to break through the muddled haze and the constant disruptive din of my troubled thoughts: providing counsel, asking soul searching questions, and guiding me towards the high road of life.
Slowly and over a period of time, my perceptions and my thought process changed. I began asking more empowering questions: Maybe there was a reason for this particular person to be in my life; maybe the feelings generated by a certain individual enabled me to grow as a person; probably the individual who leaned so heavily on me was in fact seeking my counsel, and was meant to learn a specific life lesson from me.